I am a person who appreciates feedback in the form of straight talk.
As an example, last week was my first week teaching. After each class, I gave myself notes…what can I do better? What do I need to work on? What did I do well? These notes allow me to spend some time in personal self reflection, but it also gives me time to myself a feedback loop. During these times, I have the ability to be honest with myself and recognize that, sometimes, a little critique can go a long way in making myself a better teacher for the students coming to the mat every day.
It doesn’t just happen with teaching…it can happen with others things in your life as well.
I used to come away from gatherings with friends and work through the same process. How are my friendships doing right now? Do I need to follow up with anyone? At my last job, I would use this method all the time after giving presentations. How was my tone today? Was there anything I missed? I sometimes do this with meals I prepare…what spices would make this taste different? Did I sauté the onions long enough? What else can be added? Does something need to be taken away?
See? Once we see that straight talk is actually a feedback loop of information designed to improve, it gets a little easier.
I value others who use straight talk with me as well. I so appreciate other people who give me honest feedback, especially when it is coming from a place of love. Those comments and thoughts that are shared help me to better understand how others are perceiving me, how my actions and words are coming across and being interpreted. This feedback loop of straight talk allows me to deepen my self reflection and dig deeper into becoming the person I am meant to become.
It also sometimes means that I hear things that are hard to digest. It is those things that I pay the most attention to for in them are the real hidden gems that can unlock something deep inside.
Value those moments of straight talk…from yourself and others. They can guide you in ways you never imagined.