“May all the being everywhere be happy and free, and may all the thoughts, words and actions of my own life contribute in some way to that happiness and to that freedom for all.”
It is truly a beautiful thing that we have the ability in our lives to bring love, joy and comfort to others. I was just reading an article on Elephant Journal by Susan McFadzean who chose not to complain for thirty-two days. In doing so, she discovered some things about herself. You can read her full post here.
What struck me, however, is that when we complain, not only do we do harm to ourselves, we also harm others. Remember “Ahimsa?” The concept and practice of not doing harm to others or to oneself? Well, I know that when I complain, it is usually about something I feel I haven’t done well at (last night’s dinner), something someone has done or is doing (maybe they are just doing the best they can with what they have at the moment), or a situation that I have the power to change! By complaining, we are causing harm to ourselves and others by thinking negative thoughts and sharing those negative emotional and thought patterns with others.
So, why complain? Why not have the “thoughts, words and actions” of my life reflect anything but love, joy and comfort?
I know we like to give a pass sometimes…and I believe there is a big difference between venting every now and then and complaining on a regular basis. If we don’t let our frustrations, sadness and hurt out every now and then, it can become toxic and have other negative outcomes. That is every once and a while. If we find ourselves complaining about every little thing, what can we do to change our situation? How can we change our perspective or perhaps invite more love and light into our lives to counter those things that make us angry or annoyed?
I want to happy and free. Eliminating complaints is part of that process of becoming just that.
I like Susan’s approach. I’m considering a thirty-two day challenge myself! Anyone else with me?